Your body goes through lots of changes after having your baby. These changes help your body recover from pregnancy and help you get ready to care for your new baby. It’s normal to feel some discomfort, like soreness and fatigue, as your body heals after giving birth. However, other discomforts and health problems may be a sign that you need medical care. Call your doctor if you have any of these warning signs:
Trust your instincts. If you feel like something’s wrong, call your doctor. Many of these problems can be treated easily. But if you ignore warning signs and they go untreated, they may cause more serious problems. Call your doctor or go to the hospital immediately if you think your life may be in danger, or if you have any of these warning signs:
Taking care of a newborn is an incredibly joyful time, but also very stressful; it will likely push all of your coping abilities. You can’t care properly for your baby if you are too exhausted or stressed so please try to:
The good news is you will probably lose about 5-6kg immediately and continue to lose weight as your body sheds all the excess water. Breastfeeding mothers tend to lose weight faster because of the extra calories their baby consumes. You will probably still look pregnant for several weeks or months as your uterus contracts and your belly gets back into shape. Exercise and eating healthy (not skipping meals) will help. Most first-time mothers take 6-12 months to get back to their pre-pregnancy weight.
Research has proven that long-term sexual function remains the same and is not impacted by vaginal birth. Vaginal tightness returns within 6 months post-partum for at least the first birth. You can do kegel exercises to tighten your vagina and this will also increase sexual pleasure for both you and your husband.
It’s fine to slowly start exercising as soon as you feel up to it, but if you have concerns, wait until your six-week postpartum checkup. Start slowly with a low-impact aerobic activity such as walking. Even if you have had a C-section, walking at an easy pace a few weeks postpartum will promote the healing and prevent blood clots. Also, keep taking your prenatal vitamins if you are breastfeeding. Don’t start dieting until baby is about two months old and even then remain focused on eating regular healthy meals versus simply reducing calories.
You are in for a hormonal rollercoaster ride. The major hormone changes can give you mood swings and skin changes such as breakouts or clearer skin and also lightening of any dark spots and stretch marks. You might also find your hair falls out in fistfuls but don’t be scared, you won’t go bald, this is normal as you don’t tend to lose as much hair during pregnancy so it is just the excess hair falling out. You might also get the Baby Blues or postpartum depression (see below).
You could be more emotional after giving birth due to hormonal changes, pain from the birth, lack of sleep and other emotional adjustments to motherhood. You could be happy most of the time, but at times be more irritable, cry more easily, feel sad or feel confused. This is the “Baby Blues” and affects up to 80% of new mothers. It peaks three to five days after delivery and last for a few weeks after birth. Although the “blues” are not pleasant, you can function normally. The feeling usually lessens and goes away over time on its own. But if it doesn’t and you think you are getting worse rather than better, you might have postpartum depression (PPD) and need help.
PPD is more common than you might think. Around 1 in 7 new mothers get PPD. It often starts within 1-3 weeks after birth but it can occur anytime within the first year. Symptoms differ but can include:
Don’t worry; postpartum depression is temporary and treatable. If you feel you may be suffering from it, know that it is not your fault, and there are things you can do to help cope and recover. If you think you have PPD, see a doctor or check with your local Beba-ks Center (Women's Health Resource Center) for a referral to a specialist.
There are three things you can start doing for yourself right away to feel better:
1. Stay healthy and fit:
2. Ask for and accept help:
3. Lower your stress:
If these things help, great! Keep doing them as if you stop you might find your symptoms return. If these things don’t improve your symptoms within two weeks, you should definitely see a doctor or check with your local Beba-ks Center (Women's Health Resource Center) for a referral to a specialist. You might need additional therapy, including prescription antidepressants. It’s very important you take PPD seriously as it can make it hard for you to take care of your baby and will only get worse if left untreated. If you have thoughts of harming your baby or yourself, see a doctor immediately.
How will a doctor treat your PPD? They will first ask you some questions to help determine if you have PPD. They may do tests to see if you have other health problems that may lead to PPD. For example, they may check your thyroid hormones as low levels of thyroid hormones may lead to PPD. The sooner you see your provider about PPD, the better. You can get started on treatment to make you feel better so you can take good care of yourself and your baby. These are treatments your provider may suggest:
Both you and your husband are getting used to having a baby around. Your husband may be just as nervous about being a parent as you are. Make sure you talk to each other. Talking about your feelings can help keep you both from feeling hurt and frustrated. As soon as you can, make time for just the two of you. Ask someone you trust to take care of the baby for an hour or two and go for a walk or out to dinner.
Generally, it is OK to have sex 4-6 weeks after birth, although not everyone waits that long, and not everyone is ready that soon. If you had a difficult birth, you might need longer to physically recover. Even if you are ready physically, you might not be ready emotionally. Having a baby is a hormonal rollercoaster and you may need more time to adjust. You also might be afraid of pain and could be tired from the demands of your newborn. Even if you don’t have sex, you can still be intimate; stroking, kissing, masturbation and oral sex are all be options if you are interested.
You might feel self conscious of your body after having a baby. Don’t. You just brought a human being into this world; your body is amazing. Never forget that. Generally, it takes first-time mothers 6-12 months to get back to their pre-pregnancy weight. Sex might also feel different. Often women experience vaginal dryness due to hormonal changes so use a lubricant. Experiment with different positions to find out what is most comfortable for you. Take it at your own pace and stop whenever you want to. Don’t worry, your sex life will return to normal soon enough.
Following is what is currently allowed for under Kosovo law:
For information about your birth control options, contact your doctor or visit your local Beba-ks Center (Women's Health Resource Center). Make sure you tell your doctor if you are breastfeeding as some birth control methods are not compatible with breastfeeding.
It is a well-known fact that breastfeeding is a safe, convenient and short-term way of preventing pregnancy. But maybe you have been told otherwise, or know someone who became pregnant while breastfeeding. Extensive scientific studies have proven that when breastfeeding you have less than a 2% chance of getting pregnancy, but only if all three of the following conditions are met:
If any one of the three above conditions changes, then you are no longer fully protected and you should use another contraceptive method.
It's best to wait at least 18 months between giving birth and getting pregnant again. This means your baby will be at least 1½ years old before you get pregnant. Too little time between pregnancies increases your risk of premature birth and these babies are more likely to have health problems than babies born on time. Your body needs time to fully recover from your last pregnancy before it’s ready for your next pregnancy.
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